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Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that the lovely ladies of SATC are hitting the big screen this weekend, and according to New York media, hundreds of sexy singles are heading to New York City for a sex filled weekend of bachelorette style nostalgia complete with strappy stilettos and Cosmopolitans.
Personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a SATC themed Bachelorette party, especially if your bride-to-be is a serious fanatic. Of course the timing helps too. If you are ahead of the game enough you could plan a complete SATC bachelorette complete with signature drinks, limo, movie and a night out on the town with your girlfriends in tow. Really… isn’t that what a bachelorette party is supposed to be about anyway?
I’d skip the trivia and the big pink boa, but have fun this weekend girls! AM New York gives hometown city girls some options to avoid the mayhem this weekend and still pay tribute to the ladies who introduced us to the wonderful world of fashion, friendships and sex in the city.
I know the movie doesn’t come out until this weekend, but it debuted in London last night. My cousin lives there and went to see the movie last night. I don’t know if the movie is really that good, or if it’s a fix she hasn’t gotten in four years, but she’s going back for more tonight. Cheers!
I love flowers. I think they are absolutely necessary to make a good event, and like music, they’re a subtle added detail, but if they’re missing, you definitely notice
My very first job ever… unless you count babysitting…which I don’t, was at a florist. This is the start of my obsession with flowers. When I turned 16 I marched myself into a flower shop on Main Street on Mother’s Day weekend, grabbed an apron and kind of fell in love with flowers.
It was really just the flowers that I fell in love with. Everything else about that job sucked. The pay was really bad, the tips if we got any, were mediocre at best, the location was less than desirable. (More than once I had to brandish a box cutter to scare away a crazy just before close. )
In the summertime, I stood in the sun for hours watering plants under this ridiculous striped circus tent, popping sour sweet tarts and warding off Sunday morning hangovers with my best friend Jen, doing our best to look busy when “management” came around.
But in between there were the flowers, and I quickly navigated my way through the buckets of gerbera daisies, tulips, sunflowers, roses and lilies in the back cooler. (Plus it was a great place to hide out in the middle of August.)
We had our favorites. Jen liked daisies and lily of the valley. I liked tulips, hydrangea and hyacinth.
We both liked Chris & Dave.
Hot, hired and in college. The perfect summer job trifecta for any high school girl. They were great.
Anyway, that was the beginning of my summer love… for flowers… and it has lasted well into adulthood. It being Spring I have started treating myself once a week to fresh flowers. Yellow tulips with blue hyacinth, white hydrangeas with pink roses, and this week…peonies.
I love peonies. They are BEAUTIFUL and smell incredible. A photo editor I worked with once did her own flowers for her wedding and used all different shades of peonies. I was so impressed then, and when I stumbled across them last week I justified spending $10 on 3 stems of perfect pink peonies.
Because they’re so big, you can really arrange them by themselves in oddly shaped containers. If you don’t have a vase, use a teacup, a mason jar, or even a little bowl. using differently shaped containers as a centerpiece gives the arrangement depth and height variation, plus it’s a little bit more fun than flowers in a vase. They’re also a beautiful bouquet flower because they’re so fluffy and you only need a few to make a statement.
The New York Times Style section ran some of this season’s hot new registry trends. I gotta say this is a pretty nice list. It’s focused on cooking outdoors, but there’s a little bit of everything there… like this lovely little beer scooter. I think I know several people who would absolutely appreciate a 14 MPH Scooter/Cooler on wheels. Most of them are men, and I think registering for this little beauty would a) make that china look a whole lot more reasonable and b) it’s a great group gift from your groomsmen or bridesmaids…Definitely worth checking out.
You know what is just so annoying? People showing up to events who are just not invited.
I’m not talking about the occasional “Wedding Crasher” in the Vince Vaughn, Owen Wilson sense of the word, I’m talking about people who are invited to a function and bring “extras” with them. A plus one they weren’t offered, their 18-year-old daughter who they believes they technically belong at the “adult only reception…no, no.
This is so tacky. Complaining to a couple that you don’t get a plus-one, or showing up with extra family members causes so much stress on the bride & groom, not to mention the wedding planner or facilities manager who now has to find a place for these people to sit and something for them to eat. And really, who wants to be standing in the back because they aren’t listed at a table when the bridal party is being announced? How awkward is that?
Listen, if you get an oversized envelope in the mail and it’s addressed to YOU and no one else. Don’t bring someone with you. It’s obnoxious and makes for a really uncomfortable situation at the event.
A friend of mine invited a specific number of guests to her shower. Two women called to see if their 18-year-old daughters could come. Well one called and asked, the other just showed up. It made for an uncomfortable situation at the shower and the bride had to explain to the one guest that the other had just brought her daughter and she wasn’t technically invited. THEN … later seperate phone calls had to be made to both guests to explicitly tell these women that no, their children are not welcome at this adult only reception.
Since when is this not clear? I was completely blown away by this story…You are a GUEST at this person’s wedding… there’s not a negotiation process.
I worked another wedding once where two people, who were not invited to the wedding, showed up and acted as though they were guests. I think the man actually said to me, ” I can’t believe we don’t have seats.” I knew they weren’t on the list, and I knew they were crashers, but in the interest of everyone’s sanity and pride, we had to literally set 2 more places at an 8-top table that was already set for 10. Talk about tight…
Those two were fish at the bar all night too. It was unreal.
Just advise people against doing this. As a bridesmaid you’re technically on deck to help wherever necessary and sometimes it’s having a rather uncomfortable conversation with an overly eager guest and their additional uninvited guests…but sometimes it has to be done. Weddings are expense, and if you weren’t invited… there’s a damn good reason for it. Don’t push it.
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This is a great line of super cute super prep clothing that’s great for bachelorette weekends, groomsmen gifts and welcome baskets. Pick your own outfit instead of being told what you’re supposed to wear and outfit the bridal party for any wedding weekend events.
Fun new clothes to share!
Although I live in New York and sometimes feel that I must abide by the city-wide uniform of black and well… really just black , I do love a little color in my world. And really… a popped collar never killed anyone.
Salmon Cove is a fabulous line of super prep clothing that is super, super cute.
Ryan Vesce and Ben Wallace, a pair of wicked smaaart, and wicked talented hockey boys from Cornell launched Salmon Cove because they got tired of waiting for something wonderful to happen and decided to make it happen on their terms.
Vaguely reminiscent of the Murray boys over at Vineyard Vines, Salmon Cove products center around the oh so famous polo- here with fabulous color combos and jackets for men and women. They even have a custom shop, and who doesn’t love a little monogramming from time to time.
I gotta say that A) I am super impressed and B) Having met 1/2 of the pair this weekend…something tells me it’s probably pretty fun to go to work every day.
Check them out online and click on the store locator to get a list of retailers.
A few years ago one of my best friends got married and registered for a bed. Seriously. Mixers, toasters, place settings and a humongous sleigh bed from Pottery Barn. I think I called immediately yelling at him saying things like “You registered for a BED?!?”, “Who’s going to buy you a bed?!?!”, “Are you out of your mind?!?” and “Seriously, it’s like $1500!!”
This was my first brush with the high ticket registry item. I was accustomed only to baking sheets and blenders. I didn’t know what to do with a bed. My friend explained to me that registering for the bed was really for their own benefit. They knew no one would buy it for them. But apparently, if you register for something, no one buys it and after the party and the “i do’s” you still want it, you get it at a discount.
“Ohhhhhhhhhh.” I said, sounding half relieved and half annoyed that I was learning this from a boy and wasn’t already well versed in the tricks of the registry trade.
“But do you really think someone’s going to buy you that bed?” I asked again.
And for that wedding, someone did buy them that bed. We did. Fifteen friends of the bride & groom came together and presented the bride and groom with a card at the reception that said, “Surprise! We bought you your bed!”
I have to say it was one of the best moments I’ve ever witnessed and been a part of. So from that moment on I decided group gifts and big ticket items are totally worth it and really the way to go. The thought of someone treasuring something that big for a lifetime rather than five years, which is my hypothetical guess as to how long some a blender might last, just seems like a much better gifting plan.
For a wedding we’re attending in June, we all decided to buy the bride and groom, another set of our very dear friends, their honeymoon tickets to Puerto Rico. In my opinion it’s just more meaningful than sticking to the registry or buying single gifts.
There’s a few caveats that you should think about before you start to rally the troops though.
Give all members of the group gift plenty of time to save up money and cut you a check for their share. This should avoid any last minute excuses that include but are not limited to: “I have no money”, “I spent all my money on booze, gambling and hookers”, or my personal favorite “Wait… we’re supposed to give a gift?”
Give all members of the group extra time if they happen to be living in far away places like Japan, New Zealand and Finland… this is actually my life right now. Yes, my friends are world traveling kick ass people, by the way.
Spell it out for people, especially boys, who may not know better. (Though, I will say MOST of my guy friends are very good about the group gifts, there’s always one.)
Something like, “Put $10 away for GROOM X and BRIDE Y from now until MADE UP DATE WITH BUILT IN BUFFERS. Then you’ll have enough to give me for their INSERT AMAZING GROUP GIFT HERE,” will go a long way.
My parents got a bed from my godfather, my father’s best friend, when they got married. As the story goes they didn’t have one when they got married… I actually have no idea what they were sleeping on until then, and there’s a good chance I just made that part up … but when they returned home from their honeymoon, they had a bed. A big beautiful bed that later became mine, and is still mine on the weekends that I’m home.
A very good gift that lasted well beyond the blender’s lifespan.
I love shoes. I really, really do. Shoes make me so happy. I have kind of a large foot which kills my undying desire for vintage pumps, but I still peruse the pages of Etsy on occasion because really it’s great and also because, well sometimes I get lucky. I also really, really love what Nine West has this season. Comfortable, hot shoes with unique patterns that fit and last.
Some of my favorites:
Nine West – Jojus Sandal $23.99 to $79 on Amazon.com
Nine West- Women’ Jym Sandal $55.97 on Amazon.com
Nine West- Juliarae Sandal $23.99 to $79.99 on Amazon.com
These all come in really great color combinations too. Greens & blues, oranges and pink, yellow and red,
Then there’s the ones I just dream about….
Caovilla Pink Leather Flower Pumps $796 on Bluefly
Alexandra Neel- Feather Trim Pumps $695 at Saks
Salvatore Ferragamo ‘Promis’ Slingback Pump at Nordstroms
So in addition to all of the weddings I have to attend, this year and next, I have some supplemental events: rehearsal dinners, showers and bachelorette parties to attend too. I’ve been dress shopping for a few months now for fun, flirty little spring dresses that will make me appear a) incredibly happy for the couple I’ve traveled so far to bestow my well wishes upon and b) super hot to every hot single groomsman at the party.
Here are some of my favorites:
GAP - Tropical-print Flounce Dress $69.50
CK Bradley – Lally Dress $358
J.Crew – Polka -dot rosette dress $168
Anthropologie- Yellow Cloud Dress $178
Boden – Pretty Applique Dress $168
Keep a lookout for a post on cute shoes to match tomorrow. Who doesn’t love shoes… come on.
So as I’ve admitted in many a post, I’m a book whore and I love it when I find snarky, smart young female writers I can relate to.
That said, one of my favorite books from last year was a little book by Laura Dave called London is the Best City in America. It was her first book, and I have to say for a first time writer she knows her stuff.
Here’s the synopsis:
Three years ago, Emmy Everett made the painful decision to call off her engagement and leave New York City behind. Since then she has been hiding out in Rhode Island working at a bait and tackle shop and haphazardly shooting a documentary about fishermen’s wives. July 4th weekend has rolled around again and Emmy is mustering up the courage to return home to New York (the site of her own failed romance) to celebrate her brother Josh’s wedding.
En route to his bachelor party, Emmy is shocked when her typically resolute brother confesses that he is having serious doubts about getting married – and he may even be in love with another woman.
Emmy is determined to help her brother face up to this decision – the one she fled from herself. With less than twenty-four hours to go before the wedding, she takes Josh on a road trip to find this mystery woman. Along the way, Emmy embraces her own hard-earned lessons about romance, commitment and what happens when we refuse to let go of the past.
I had the pleasure of meeting Laura Dave last summer at a seminar. She is super nice, very down to earth and she’s a Red Sox fan. Ahh… the trifecta.
Her second book The Divorce Party, debuts today. I haven’t had a chance to read this yet, but if the first book is any indication of Laura Dave’s talents, this is sure to be a winner as well.
Here’s the synopsis:
On their 35th anniversary, Gwyn Huntington and her husband Thomas have invited friends and family to their Montauk home. Instead of celebrating their decades-long love, they are toasting their divorce. This also marks the weekend that their son brings home his fiancée, Maggie Mackenzie, for the first time. Maggie thought she was joining a perfect family, but she is about to reckon with some uncomfortable truths about the man she wants to marry.
A multi-generational story about what it means to share a life with someone, The Divorce Party brings us two immensely appealing women: Gwyn who is stumbling upon the end of her marriage, and Maggie, her future-daughter-in-law, who is trying to navigate the beginning of hers. With emotional candor and surprising humor, these two women find themselves trying to answer the same questions: Can you ever really know someone? When should you fight for the person you love most, and when should you begin to let him go?
Happy Spring Reading!